IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU

IT’S ALL ABOUT YOU               By Nelson M. Kilonzo

Life in its natural uniqueness offers a man with the most amazing gift-life. The world in spaciousness welcomes a man to an amazing privilege-existence. Intelligence and hard-work opens doors for any man in pursuit for success. The life and existence thus gifts every man in the society having an opportunity to explore, adore and love and use his environs. While the society gets down busy trying to stipulate ‘the ways of man’, it’s all at his best to make the most important thing in life-to choose. However much the society tries to form a way of life for everyone, we all are presented with the opportunity and chance to choose our own way.

Yes the society plays part in our choices but mark you that it’s the least to share our consequences. Every play has an ending, we all know that. Every consequence should aim at making us happier and better than we were when making the choice and so this shifts the handle to the choice maker. Our choices are (may be) influenced by our environs that hub our societies but it’s always best to pay less attention to those forces sorely because at the loose end our consequences will affect us most and much lesser our societies.

Everyone has friends that are tied close to them, those that one will always seek attention and compliments from. Those that one will ask for assistance from. Those that one sees useful when making decisions…etc. One may care lesser on how you got the friends but take a closer look at how well they help you grow, how good they are at company, good friends in deeds…

All that they do to us may seem correct to us, very important or otherwise. Remember they are the lager part of your society which will take the least responsibility in your failure. They will help you dig a hole and they will rejoice at throwing you in it. This means that although they seem to care about you, take a closer look at their interests in your success.

So, what I simply imply is that your closest environs (let us call them as they deserve…your ‘friends’) may frame and help in your failure but won’t be ready to help you take up the cross or help you carry it. Just to finish up, ‘man is the best answer to his woes and success’. Live your life, make your own decisions and carry your own cross ‘cause at last no one is ready to do that best for you as you do it yourself. Every man has one life to live. Live yours cause in life IT IS ALWAYS ALL ABOUT YOU!

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THE MYSTERY OF LOVE

                    THE MYSTERY OF LOVE.                            By Nelson Kilonzo

Hello readers? It’s my pleasure to share with you again some few thoughts about something we all may need in life. LOVE! I took too long thinking about what this thing is always about and I find it interesting to share with you some findings. Let’s begin by asking ourselves some few questions-which we should answer with honesty. What is love? Somebody please tell me what love is? Is it a thing? A feeling? May be words? Actions? Thoughts? What?! Does it exist? Is it real?  If it really is real, where does it abide? In the body…mind…soul…or?! I have struggled lots with my passion to understand love but all I can up to this point do is questions. Lately I have had a lot of questions about this idea: is it fiction or is it a fact? Do we own it or does it own us? Do we bring it together or does it bring us together? Is it existing in the real or is it abstract?

Some may say that we can have it ‘on’ us-our bodies. That love is felt on our bodies. That the little things we do ‘on’ our partners is love. For instance, if your ‘dude’ kisses your cheek, then they love you? If they walk holding your hand in town then they love you? Caresses…the ‘play’…does it mean they love you? Maybe the answer is YES! But how about if they don’t do that, do they still love you? How about if they beat you up for the little misunderstandings, is that love too?! If they cheat on you and do that to someone else, is that love too?! And how about if they do not keep up to the game in bed, you still love them?! And if you may force yourself to keep loving them, for how long more?

Love is felt in the mind as some will say, but we all know that the mind only carries thoughts. What is a ‘thought’? It is simply the arrangement of ideas in a conscious mind about experiences and imaginations. Is love an experience or an imagination? Can you point it or touch it? If we can, then it’s concrete. But since we can’t, we assume it is abstract. So we can assume that love to those who say it’s in the mind that they just imagine about it, and it is fictitious.  

At least some will say that love lives in the soul. Well…we all at least know that the soul is the spirit-if it exists. If we say love is spiritual and lives in the soul, tell me why don’t we assume to love people we can’t see? Those we have never met, or force our spirits to drive our partners from where they are to us? If it really abides in the soul, why don’t we feel it when our partners cheat on us?

So what is love? Is it real or is it abstract? Do we feel it or do we experience it?  Where does it really belong? Body…mind…or the soul? Questions…questions…questions…questions about love may never end. It has been long since I started to think about love, I hope that you readers will help me understand the mystery about love. Love is a mystery, don’t play around with it or it may end up hurting you or else you end up hurting yourself.

It’s time for me to go but I’ll leave you with a quote ~ “Love is like a rolling stone, don’t try stop it cause it will hurt you, don’t run after it cause you cannot catch it, but rather just let it be.”

Until next time, bye readers.

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PAIN AND GAIN

PAIN AND GAIN                             By Nelson .M. Kilonzo

I pain on your gain

You gain on my pain

On your gain I strain

And my woes you refrain

It was ‘suluhishi’

Two days later, ‘mnafiki’

In your ballots ‘mtaishi!’

And later ‘sitosheki’

A month later in the streets

Meeting streaks by your ‘treats’

 ‘Teas’ being the traps

In the 'HOUSES' just going naps

With my dreams I leave

But by my votes you live

A representative…

Less productive!

Hiking prices of their stuff…

Hiring none, paying less their staff…

Keeping me their captive!

For as long as I live.

Till when are you to gain

As I watch you fill me with pain?

Not again will I strain

And let your greed reign

Poor politics I refrain

‘Cause in my pain I bore a good grain

And ooh! On the grain, my votes rain!

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TYPES OF LOVERS IN RELATIONSHIPS

              TYPES OF LOVERS IN RELATIONSHIPS      By Nelson Kilonzo

    Have you ever loved? Have you ever been loved? Have you ever been into a relationship? How did you feel to be in a relationship? Are you in a relationship right now? How are things going on? Just to begin with, LOVE is an identity. It’s something most of us are proud to have, share, feel and get into. Love is never merely an attribute of the mind but also is an important aspect to life as a whole-it takes the soul, mind and the body. People love for several reasons, I bet we all would want to hear this….but I wish we make this a subject for another day. Today, I wish we look at a very important aspect of all love relationships-the state of the lovers.

     What about the state of a lover as they get into a relationship?  It’s all about what they got for the other party. Seems so simple, but indeed so complicated; as most of us will agree with me at the end. There are mainly three types and states of lovers:

      Those who say: “I got my heart and my body ready”. These are those so ready to offer both their body and heart. They will give their time, money, trust, thoughts…everything. They will do anything to remain in the relationships no matter how hard the storm hits the boat. These are the guys who really love by words and deeds. They will do everything to appreciate their ‘other parts’ as their own. They will take what they have to be theirs and will protect that as they would with their lives. These are those worthy guys and so hard to part with or loose.

      The “I got my heart but my body is used”. Most of us, to be true will agree that the worth of a relationship is judged by the ‘material’ benefits. The ‘extrinsic’ motivation and rewards. Actually…the ‘nut’-if you know what I mean.  .These guys readily have their hearts to offer but…this is the problem…they aren’t ready to have their ‘nuts’ cracked out of the shell…or they do not want to let out their ‘puppies’ out of the kennel. It’s even worse when their nuts are cracked severally and there’s nothing more to crack or their puppies aren’t strong enough to bark. These guys are a problem to handle I tell you!

     There’s the “I got my body but my heart is broken or is in a safe”. This type will give their ‘mines’ for mining or just simply give ‘their nuts for cracking and their puppies for play’ just coz’ they can’t keep without the pleasure. They at times pretend to be collecting the materials to mend their broken hearts or are trying to console themselves or even trying to hurt their ‘Exes’-these are just some of the wrong reasons I mentioned earlier. They will never be serious with any relationship and will readily ‘get in any bus leaving for any stage’.  Try not to hurt yourself by really loving this type coz' they will never get their hearts into the relationship.

     Now we know the types of lovers we get with into relationships. Before settling in any relationship, try and know the type of lover you are as well as your ‘other part’ for this will make you give the expected and get what you expect…it’s the only way to survive in relationships. Good luck in your relationships!

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THE DAWN IN MY HEART

THE DAWN IN MY HEART                BY Kilonzo M. Nelson

You just said you loved me…

But I loved you…

I thought that was enough,

I was stupid,

I did my part,

I loved you...

You seemed to care

But actually, you did not.

Every night that I cried,

It’s you who made me cry…

I thought you’d lay your shoulder for me

I thought you’d wipe my tears away…

But instead you left my side

Not even a piece of cloth to wipe my tear…

Ol’ times we shared

I regret I dint see it

That you never cared

You said you loved my beauty

That I was so sexy

And that you admired my looks

But now time’s gone

You pass your eyes to other beauties

You have their time, for me no talks

You left my heart a tunnel

As dark as a moonless night

No stars to shine

'Stead, so much cold….

All nights bring with them dawns

But long lonely nights…

Bring with them brighter dawns

I now see some light, just at the end of my tunnel

My night is just to end

And my dawn is here

My treasure, my joy

A time to pick up my pieces

The pieces to my broken heart!

A time to love and be loved

A time for...

The dawn in my heart!

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