TYPES OF LOVERS IN RELATIONSHIPS
By Nelson Kilonzo
Have you ever loved? Have you ever been
loved? Have you ever been into a relationship? How did you feel to be in a
relationship? Are you in a relationship right now? How are things going on? Just to begin with, LOVE is an identity. It’s something most of
us are proud to have, share, feel and get into. Love is never merely an
attribute of the mind but also is an important aspect to life as a whole-it
takes the soul, mind and the body. People love for several reasons, I bet we
all would want to hear this….but I wish we make this a subject for another day.
Today, I wish we look at a very important aspect of all love relationships-the
state of the lovers.
What
about the state of a lover as they get into a relationship? It’s all about what they got for the other
party. Seems so simple, but indeed so complicated; as most of us will agree
with me at the end. There are mainly three types and states of lovers:
Those who say: “I got my heart and my body ready”. These are those so ready to
offer both their body and heart. They will give their time, money, trust,
thoughts…everything. They will do anything to remain in the relationships no
matter how hard the storm hits the boat. These are the guys who really love by words and deeds. They will do everything to appreciate their ‘other parts’ as
their own. They will take what they have to be theirs and will protect that as
they would with their lives. These are those worthy guys and so hard to part
with or loose.
The “I got my heart but my body is used”. Most
of us, to be true will agree that the worth of a relationship is judged by the
‘material’ benefits. The ‘extrinsic’ motivation and rewards. Actually…the ‘nut’-if you know what I mean. .These guys readily have their hearts to
offer but…this is the problem…they aren’t ready to have their ‘nuts’ cracked out of the shell…or they
do not want to let out their ‘puppies’
out of the kennel. It’s even worse when their nuts are cracked severally and
there’s nothing more to crack or their puppies aren’t strong enough to bark.
These guys are a problem to handle I tell you!
There’s the “I got my body but my heart is
broken or is in a safe”. This type will give their ‘mines’ for mining or
just simply give ‘their nuts for cracking
and their puppies for play’ just coz’ they can’t keep without the pleasure.
They at times pretend to be collecting the materials to mend their broken
hearts or are trying to console themselves or even trying to hurt their ‘Exes’-these
are just some of the wrong reasons I mentioned earlier. They will never be serious
with any relationship and will readily ‘get
in any bus leaving for any stage’. Try
not to hurt yourself by really loving this type coz' they will never get their
hearts into the relationship.
Now we know the types of lovers
we get with into relationships. Before settling in any relationship, try and
know the type of lover you are as well as your ‘other part’ for this will make
you give the expected and get what you expect…it’s the only way to survive in
relationships. Good luck in your relationships!
